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What I said is all about my experience in my 56 years of life.  Remember there are good and Bad people everywhere. 

Today we are deviating from serious topic can be healthy and less distressing We will return to the nursing topic later.  Nevertheless what is going to be said here is actually related to nursing and health as a whole particularly mental health and women (which I have not touched) in general. I can say this because I do have the experiences and I am over half century old, which qualified me to say what am I saying, it is about honesty.

Many who read this might know and some don't. During my years of services as a nurse (clinical and teaching) I have work in middle east, in the west and of course our beloved country Malaysia. Yes Malaysia my dear readers. There are many good things in Malaysia- food for example. One will never go hungry in Malaysia and of course out weather- which do not require us is to have winter cloth, summer cloth, spring and autumn cloth. We only need summer cloth and umbrella.

Western people are mostly honest and direct. They say what in their mind and one don't have to worry being put in cold storage for being honest. They love honesty and hate people who pretend which we do including our students oversea are doing.  I talked and critique them on anything from clothing, religious and their culture. They might not happy with it but accept it if we present the issues with facts. We cannot be honest even to inform them of our time for prayer instead of saying "Excuse me I have to go for my prayer" many will say "excuse me I have to go for a while" when asked back, they are will respond back by saying "oh something" Be honest for goodness sake. The honesty will you gain respect.  I once was asked why I must we head-scarf, my response is "it is part of my religious obligation. I response by asking them why are you naked and wearing minimal clothes. If you are not good they will say you are not good (remember not all people are the same).  Beside that these people do not keep what was criticized at heart, in fact they thank us, because we see them what is right. I know because I have gone through that, not only they appreciate us but they too will ensure action are taken or rectified immediately.

Never do the same in Malaysia, even for a good reason, unless you are sure (I means really really sure that the person can accept your comment.  If someone is fat, for example, we will be so polite not to say the person is fat, the politeness is make a person continue to be unhealthy or doing things that is wrong. Of course Honesty can be done is a polite manner because by being honest we are helping someone to improve themselves becoming healthy but it has to be done in private, individual and exclusive pertaining the person.  We also cannot criticize people of higher authority, as the saying "boss is always right" even when he is SOOOOOOO wrong. Criticizing higher authority means no promotion, or any good incentive.  Being Honest in Malaysia also means that your record will be BLACK forever.

I always receive comment to say that I am not friendly, not team player because of my look because I like to isolate myself from conflicting situation and when I say thing, it come from the heart.  May be that is my weakness, I need to be me well mannered and gentle. It is hard because of my middle Eastern blood running in my vein. However I am better than most Middle Eastern poeple who are born and live in Middle East.  I am Malaysin with Middle Eastern Blood.  My advise is if you are an honest person, walk away or be silence from any situation which requires you to talk discuss issue or topic which you know going to incriminate you. This is better than lying and pretending. At the same time, mix and match when and if necessary.

 For that matter, I am more comfortable around Western People because they don't judge me. I am also more at peace living there because you do not have to pretend.  Don't get me wrong I love Malaysia but Malaysia do not Love me.