Hiding Malaysian identity

As salam and Hi

Jangan ketawakan pengunaan bahasa Melayu saya, sila perbetulkan jika perlu, kerana seperti yang saya katakan bahasa melayu saya memang tidak hebat. Maaf kerana mencampurkan pengunaan bahasa Melayu dengan English.

Hari ini saya ingin membincangkan pasal orang kita yang takut mengutarakan atau menunjukkan identity, budaya, cara hidup, amalan agama sama ada di Malaysia dan terutama sekali di luar negeri.

Kita lebih mengikut cara hidup barat

Ambil contoh makanan, sebenarnya makanan Malaysia amat di gemari termasuk orang barat.  Tetapi kerana kita malu (terutama wanita melayu [dan juga lelaki Melayu] yang berkahwin dengan lelaki barat) memperkenalkan, mereka sanggup menahan selera kerana tidak mahu memasak, konon nya suami / isteri dan anak-anak tak suka.  Kita malu nak gunakan tangan bila makan, malu nak gunakan batu lesung.  Lihat sekarang, siapa gunakan batu lesung, Jamie Oliver, siapa masak sambal, orang barat, dan banyak makanan melayu telah di commercialkan oleh orang barat.

Untuk pelajar, yang di luar negeri, do inform professor, lecturer tentang perayaan Malaysia terutama hari raya, bulan puasa jadi mereka lebih memahami budaya dan seterusnya mereke akan menghormati nya. Inform  mereka bila hari raya dan minta kebenaran untuk mengambil satu hari cuti semasa hari raya. Begitu juga jangan segan, takut, teragak-agak memberi tahu akan keperluan kita dan waktu solat kita, kerana kebanyakkan masa kita boleh menunaikan solat dan mereka akan membenarkan. Tetapi jangan salah gunakan kebenaran yang diberi

Ramai antara orang Malaysia (Melayu) yang tak tahu bila puasa dan hari raya dan tidak mengajar anak-anak atau suami akan perayaan kita sehingga anak tidak langsung mengetahui  kewujudan Ramdhan dan hari raya. 

Jangan hanya ketengahkan tarian dan budaya hiburan semata-mata kepada mereka.

Kita perlu mengetahu apa yang mebezakan Melayu, Islam dan barat. Tidak apa salahnya kita belajar dan mengetahui adat dan budaya barat kerana kita berada di negara mereka, tapi kekalkan identiy kita sebagai orang Melayu dan orang Islam.

 Jangan kita jadi lebih barat dari orang barat.

Enjoy

Dr Aishah Ali

Next blog nak cerita pasal kakitangan bawahan yang berlagak atasan

Bahasa Malaysia

Today I want to try writing in Malay.  My English is not good but my Malay is worst especially when come to writing.  It is not my fault though, I was brought up with a different style of Bahasa Melayu where Cawan is spelt Chawann e bertanda atas and so on. Even the format of letter writing also different. I do not understand the numbering in letters. Even my son said so. One day I was writing for him something and sent to him to check.  He said "Umi next time, write in English and I tranlate it for you". How embarrassed is that. But accepted it because that is the reality of it, no point of denying.  The same was when I am writing a report which must be in Malay. I will give it to my a very young co-worker to read it.  The response is, " tak faham lah doctor".

I think Bahasa Malaysia or Bahasa Melayu has gone through more transformation than any other language including English.  The victims are the people of Malaysia especially children.   So everyone who reads this, are welcome to comment and make suggestion.  I am going to begin with short notes in Bahasa Melayu (I like Melayu more)

Sesiapa juga boleh berjaya

Kejayaan boleh dicapai.

Tapi usaha perlu di sertakan...usaha dan terus berusaha

Orang cacat tanpa kaki boleh mendaki gunong

Orang miskin boleh berjaya.  

Selamat membaca.  Contoh kejayan di sertakan dalam blog bertajuk Cacat tapi Berjaya
 Dr Aishah

Cacat tapi Berjaya

 
Nick Vujicic, pronounced  
                                     
 Born in 1982 in Brisbane, Australia,
without any medical explanation or warning

Gambar Nick Vujicic semasa kecil dan dewasa. Dia seorang yng berdikari

Marrying the White or foreigner

As Salam and Hi
I would like to remind readers that what I wrote is all based on my experiences and observations and of course not everyone are the same. In some topics, majority are involved while other intances only minority are involved.

Let get back to the topic of today.
Marrying a person of different background has the good bad especially when children and religion are involved (I am talking about Malaysia). This is based on my experiences watching these people over times.

I am not going to talk about religion here .  All I want to say is the type of men or women that the Malaysians (and Asian) or the white are looking or marrying and living abroad and the preception and expectation of family

WHITE MEN

1. The White MEN that are marrrying Malaysian not all are RICH. White men like Malaysians (and Asians) women because they are loyal and sincere.

1a. Unfortunately family back home thought white MEN are always rich and expect the daughter to provide for the family back home or spent money when and if they return home for holiday. In actual fact their lives are not that easy abroad. They struggle which the family does not know.

1b. You cannot aspect your daughter to send money home like we do in Malaysia (even Malaysian children also not all doing it )

1c. When family comes to visit, not all welcome in thier homes.  They might put them  in a motel. That is the reality. Do not aspect to be like in Malaysia when family can just come in and sleep in the house.

WHITE WOMEN/ FOREIGNER

2. The White or foreign WOMEN that are marrying Malaysia men usually look for those who are RICH and Educated and with STATUS. They will not marrying a painter or mechanic which the Malay women did.

2b. Sadly Malay men (who is supposed tot be leader in the family) who married white women seem to follow the White women (including lifestyle).  This is include those living abroad or in Malaysia.  The example is many .

So Ladies and gentlemen think about it

Dr Aishah

Valuable Lesson

As Salam and Hi

 My blog today 9/8/11 is short but with pictures.

Valuable Lesson

These are some of the words and advice that the educated and the smart people like me learn from the family of one in a million 


1. Love your spouse, children, mother and father by showing and saying it.

2. Hugs and kisses them daily.

3.Say thank you to everything they did and does for us (the food she cook, the child she look after, the present he bought) and say it like you meaning it. The regret will come which of no use when they are not around.
 




2. Say what is in your heart to them, good and bad so they can improve





3. Welcome them home each day with a smile and ask how thier days been.





4. Have only one TV in the house so everyone will sit together to watch them together. it keep the family tied and learn to compromise to see programe.

 

Enjoy

Dr Aishah

One in a Million Part 3

YELLOW DAIMOND
This is a picture of yellow diamond. One of the most expensive gem stones. Why am I placing the priceless gem stone here. Because I want to illustrate the person, that I mentioned briefly in my part 1 and part 2 "One in a Million".  To be honest, I think she is worth than the yellow diamond.  I do not know how to begin describing this individual.  How good she is. Her smile, her action, her "words", her money, her energy, her goods, her heart of course, her house- it is too many to mention. Remember I mentioned that she is married to a white man and her English is not good.  These are some of  my favorite words. "Intrenational" for international; "respectation" for expectation," I not be at home" for I am not at home.  But who care.  Everyone loves it and understand her. More so English is not her first language.

SIMILARITY
I can describe about this person because I live, laugh, cry,cook, eat, go places, shopping and more with her. Plus my kids were looked after by her. We get along well because there are some similarity between her (not all).  She is from the same state, from poor family, loves the same food, share same sad and happy stories, and  outspoken (accepted where she lives which I will tell letter). She is also patriotic in same instances

LIVE CONCEPTShe has a very noble concept in life. She use her hard life before to make other people happy. She also believe for bad things people did, there must be a reason and it should not be repaid with revenge. Continue do good deed until we knows that person is really bad through and through.  If that happens, don't hate the person but stop being closed but she still welcome them and talk to them if coming in contact them.

LIVING AND TEACHING
Let begin with the little business that she is doing.  When we talk business, it means selling thing with good return and I think she did that because of the rest of the things she did.  Her business is very barakah. Most of the time she give away the thing that she selling.  The money mostly come from people who buy for business purposes. Firstly she sell very cheap but those buying from her can muck up the prize, 2,3.4, or 5 time, and she doesn't care about it. If students come, depending on the type of students, she usually halves the price or give them for free.  For any functions such as wedding, iftar, she also give her product as donation. The same if she knows the person (she knows most people in the community) ordering are poor again free.  But her income never reduced.

She also taught many people how to make the product that she made.  When we talk about teach, it is not pen an paper teaching or words but really teaching, coming to her house for few days to see the technique of doing, the texture of the product and the rest. Nothing is hidden. Many of her "students" are now doing their own businesses, some are commercialized by sending the product to supermarket, open a restaurant and other form business. Again her income never reduced, in fact she had to reject some of the orders.

She love to teach on the product she cooked, she also love to give what she cooks and her goods. Though, there is only three (in reality, her house always had more than three because people come and stay with her all the time, including me)  people living in the house, she cooks for 10 people or more despite her daughter always tell her not to cook a lot. Because people come to her house all the times, so she makes sure there is something to eat when people come. Not only the guests eat in the house, there is some to take home. So packed goods goes along.  People sometime borrows her cookery, utensils but forget to return , and she don't care most of the time. When people come and see nice things (small small things) and they like it, she gives them away. She will not ask instead she buy a new one, second hand usually, because it it easy to get second hand goods. Her answer is simple," it is not ours anymore".

BASIC HOUSEHOLD
Her house is a very simple house with basic needs but the house is full of love.  She does not like her daughter to have TV in her room, so if people give her TVs, she gives them away.  TV time is family time where everyone sits together.  They compromise on TV programs. No arguement about it. 

COOKING
I must talk about her cooking.  She loves and excellent in cooking, masyallah.  You will be surprise to see the way she cooks. Throw and mix anything which is relevant to the main ingredients and the product turned out delicious.  Any food, French, American, Malay, Indian, and the rest. She likes to say " we make them (the food)". She knows a lot of western foods' names, the herbs, the vegetables, and the tips of saving, cooking, preserving food to last longer, to test better.  She knows what foods is best for summer, and for winter. Thus when people asked her how she makes it, it is difficult to tell the measurement so the only way is to see her cooking.

By the way this roast chicken is not as good as hers.  There are so many missing ingredient

SHOPPING AND SAVING
Shopping with her is also fun. Most of the time she buys second hands good (good second hand goods).  But something that is needed for long time, or for health purposes, she buys brand new goods which lasted for years.  She is not the type who change household furniture such as sofa regularly. It not stingy but the need is not there.

She spent her money more on foods but not to waste. left over are kept. This is okey because her daughter and her husband do not mind eating left over.  This is a soft sport of her, remember how difficult lives before and how others in the third world are not getting foods to get. 

CHARITYShe is also not stingy with her money.  She gives a lot to charity. Anyone come knocking that her door will get something, irrespective of ethnic and religious background.  That is not including the regular donation of big organizations. Money is given to people admitted to hospital example for patrol.

She is good to anyone, so when anyone is sick or dying she get to know first followed by a visit to the sick or dead people. She attended funeral in funeral homes. 

WELL SPOKENShe is too outspoken. What she said is based on logic and she said what is in her mind including to her husband and her daughter. People accept it because what she say is the true things. When a person is wrong, it has to be told. She gives advices when people asked but not too pressure if people don't take her advice, because if she pushes, she will lose a friend.

MAKING JOKES
She is also good with jokes. Anyone, the young, old, men, women will stop to listen to her.  Her jokes mostly about her life and about things she experiences. Never about people.  Talking about people is not her cup of tea though people come and tell her stories.  When she hears two stories about a person, she neither confirm it not add to the story. She just listen and continue to listen.

She rezeki is masyallah. There are always things people give her when they leave.  Students who lives with her will return and buy things for her, the husband and the daughter or give money. Most of those who lives with her are now someone with high position in Malaysia from, professor, Dato' Tan Sri, business man and many more.  But she never take advantages these people or uses these people for herself.

PATRIOTISMHer patriotism, this is important.  Though she is unhappy, not agree about the life of people and scenario in Malaysia, nevertheless she loves Malaysia through and through.  She criticized people when they say bad things about Malaysia.  She is angry at people who did not sing the National Anthem in a patriotic way, loud and clear when attending national day. She is not happy when the tape replaced the people's voice.  She hates that. It is like singing without soul according to her.



She looks after her husband and her daughter well.  Loving, caring but not spoiling.  When she goes out for any function, she makes sure to be back early because the husband need rest, remember the husband gets up early. Eating is given on time, make sure it is balanced and not too much.  The same with her daughter, she cooks what she likes, but at the same time she need to be independent.  If the weather is good, the daughter will walk to train station (about 10 minutes), she will drives if the weather is not good. During regular months, again walk home from work but during Ramadhan, she picks her daughter. She never clean, tidy, the daughter's room, no matter how untidy (not always) it is. That is the daughter's responsibility. Her daughter does not have a car and she does not want one, because the cost to maintain the car will her daughter's. 

Everyday, I mean everyday, when the husband comes home, the first thing, they asked each other is "How is your day".  From them they pick up about each other feelings, moods and start the subsequent hours based on that. 

ONE IN A BILLION
I think I told enough about this person. To me, she has the heart of polished gold which is without a scratch.  There is no hatred in her heart, only goods. She is not ONE in MILLION actually, She is ONE is a BILLION

I hope we learn something, I know I did. This is some of the things I remember to write.  All good.

Enjoy

Dr Aishah

Dr Aishah